I have spent many years trying to discover the ONE thing - the one vital choice - that leads to healing and joy, or to suffering Over 35 years ago I discovered an essential piece of the puzzle: that we each have only one to two intents at any given moment - to protect against pain and responsibility for it, or to open to learning from our pain and take responsibility for it

I am sitting with Bryan at one of my 5-Day Inner Bonding Intensives Bryan is talking about one thing after another, and I cannot follow him at all

"I keep getting into more and more debt, but I can't seem to stop I do great for a while, and then I just have to go shopping and buy stuff

Take a moment to go inside and see how you define success Is your success defined by: * How much money you have

We all want to be respected by others And, we would all love to have control over whether or not others treat us respectfully

Are you love or approval addicted * Do you often feel empty inside if you are not in a relationship

Celine, an only child, was 7 years old, her mother died tragically in a car accident She and her father were devastated

What are you afraid of if you say "No" to people Here are some of the things my clients have told me regarding their fear of saying no: "I'm afraid of hurting their feelings

Are you emotionally dependent You might want to go through this checklist

Of course, most people will say that they really want to be healthy, but what are you willing to DO to be healthy And what are you willing to NOT DO to be healthy